I statements

I really need to start using "I" statements when talking to people, even family. We were at a wedding this weekend, kid free, and we still could not escape talk of Butterfly Girl and her disabilities. It was very frustrating as is every conversation is about her.

See what people don't seem to understand is that we have been to three medical professionals, we see four therapists on a weekly to monthly basis. We have been told the same thing by all of these professional who are working with our sweet girl. Yet people can not seem to fathom her condition. They still say that we must be wrong. The claim that she can see, they claim that we, her parents, are wrong. "She looks at me," they say. How frustrating. I then come on the attack. I say, "You just don't understand. You never will. Unless you spend any amount of time with her you will not truly get what we go through." This in turns make people upset. I am attacking them for their opinion, for their voice, and they do not care for that. I need to change how I react.

From now on I need to start using "I" statements. Things such as "I feel like a bad parent when you think she can see, but medical professionals are saying differently." "I feel hurt when you think we are not being truthful about Butterfly Girl's condition." I know I need to come up with lots more. I am going to try my best to use these types of statements when talking to people. Even family because it is family I want to attack the most when they make such crazy statements.

I think that this new way of addressing people will be great for everyone involved.